We learn to make friends from our childhood itself. We are not taught by anyone to do so but instinctively choose to develop friendship with others from the very moment we are exposed to the outer world. However, such is not the case with everyone. A child suffering from Asperger’s syndrome finds it extremely difficult to form friendships and communicate with others easily.
This is because Asperger’s syndrome is a kind of developmental disorder in which the processing of information by the brain is affected so that it has a direct impact on the child’s social and emotional behavior as well as its communication skills. Our reactions are dependent on how quickly the brain manages to process information. If that is affected, it can alter the course of life in a big way and that is exactly what happens with children suffering from Asperger’s syndrome.
How do you make friends? The first step obviously is by communicating. As you start conversing with new people, a bond develops which gradually takes the shape of friendship.
However, a child who has Asperger’s syndrome falters in the first step itself. It is not that the child has poor language skills because of the disease. On the contrary, there are some children who have above-average skills as far as language is concerned. But, the problem arises in communication.
An Asperger’s syndrome patient fails to communicate effectively even plain things like recounting what has happened on a given day or simply narrating a tale or incident. They also lack the capability to read body language so that if someone tries to convey that he is hurt or unhappy, they are unable to understand them. This often comes in the way of making friends.
A grown-up man may try to understand and embrace someone suffering from the disorder. But, you cannot expect such maturity from children. Other kids often do not give a child with Asperger’s syndrome a chance or an opportunity to express himself. They are also sometimes a bit insensitive towards them which make such kids all the more aggressive and difficult to handle.
However, children with Asperger’s syndrome take a lot lesser time to make friends on social networking sites. This is because it rids them off the embarrassment of inter-personal communication. They find it much easier to express their thoughts and feelings on a networking site than in real life. Even if he takes time to react to a post or expression, there is no one to laugh at him or coax him to be fast and prompt. That is why most children who have some kind of developmental disorder make use of the net to do things that they dread doing in real life.
A child with this disorder, therefore, can still hope to make friends albeit with quite a bit of effort. Social networking sites can be the first step towards that goal. As they gain confidence, they can gradually extend a hand of friendship to kids in the real world as well.